When two identical conducting spheres are in contact, their charges are shared equally. The total charge on both spheres is: \[ Q_{\text{total}} = 4 \times 10^{-6} \, \text{C}. \] Thus, the charge on each sphere after they are in contact will be: \[ Q = \frac{4 \times 10^{-6}}{2} = 2 \times 10^{-6} \, \text{C}. \] Using Coulomb's law for the force of repulsion between the two spheres: \[ F = \frac{1}{4\pi \epsilon_0} \frac{Q^2}{r^2}. \] Substitute the known values for the force and charge and solve for the distance \( r \): \[ 9 \times 10^{-3} = \frac{9 \times 10^9 \times (2 \times 10^{-6})^2}{r^2}. \] Solving for \( r \), we find \( r = 4 \, \text{cm} \).
Final Answer: \( 4 \, \text{cm} \).