Let the breadth of the rectangle be \( b \) and the length be \( l \). We are given that the length is always the square of the breadth:
\[
l = b^2.
\]
The area \( A \) of the rectangle is:
\[
A = l \times b = b^2 \times b = b^3.
\]
We are given that the rate of change of the area is \( \frac{dA}{dt} = 4 \, \text{cm}^2/\text{s} \). We need to find the rate at which the length is changing, i.e., \( \frac{dl}{dt} \), at the instant when \( b = 4.5 \, \text{cm} \).
Step 1: Differentiate the area equation with respect to time
\[
\frac{dA}{dt} = 3b^2 \frac{db}{dt}.
\]
We know \( \frac{dA}{dt} = 4 \), so:
\[
4 = 3b^2 \frac{db}{dt}.
\]
Step 2: Solve for \( \frac{db}{dt} \)
Substitute \( b = 4.5 \):
\[
4 = 3(4.5)^2 \frac{db}{dt}.
\]
\[
4 = 3(20.25) \frac{db}{dt}.
\]
\[
4 = 60.75 \frac{db}{dt}.
\]
\[
\frac{db}{dt} = \frac{4}{60.75} \approx 0.79 \, \text{cm/s}.
\]
Step 3: Find \( \frac{dl}{dt} \)
Since \( l = b^2 \), differentiate \( l \) with respect to time:
\[
\frac{dl}{dt} = 2b \frac{db}{dt}.
\]
Substitute \( b = 4.5 \) and \( \frac{db}{dt} \approx 0.79 \):
\[
\frac{dl}{dt} = 2(4.5)(0.79) \approx 7.11 \, \text{cm/s}.
\]
Thus, the rate at which the length of the rectangle is increasing when the breadth is 4.5 cm is approximately \( \boxed{7.11 \, \text{cm/s}} \).