Read the following passage carefully: (1) What do we typically do when we find our children doing something we don’t approve of? We become reactive parents. Often, we pepper our reactions with lectures. When it doesn’t work and predictably so; we end up screaming and dole out a punishment. And our children react with anger, resentment or ‘can’t-be-bothered’ attitude. (2) Buddhist Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh put it beautifully when he described how each child has both negative seeds- of anger, despair, hatred, fear and violence- and wholesome seeds- of love, happiness, compassion and forgiveness. According to him, what will blossom depends on the seeds we nurture. (3) A parenting and educational approach that’s gaining a large following internationally, called the Nurtured Heart Approach (NHA) by Howard Glasser, is very much in keeping with this Zen approach. The three main aspects of this approach are: Refuse to energize negativity. Relentlessly energize their positives. Reset: Do not react negatively and stay calm when the child does something wrong. Parents following this approach commit to not saying or doing anything that may fuel negativity in the child. But the parent has to make sure she/he does this very calmly, without any anger or resentment. (4) While on a mission to cut the negative, the parent looks for every opportunity to energize the positive in the child. This is done through persistently appreciating the goodness in the child in the smallest of ways: You were really generous about sharing your pizza with your sister; I appreciate the hard work you have put in your project; It takes courage to stand up to a bully. If you observe, the appreciation is not about saying “excellent”, “amazing” or “good”, which is really an empty praise and does not speak much to the child. Qualifying a praise, on the other hand, gives the child direction and she/he begins to understand what qualities, values and strengths are appreciated. These are also necessary ingredients of life skills and success. (5) This approach is not merely about noticing when the child is being good, it is about recognizing the child’s worth at every step. It’s about aligning his energy in believing that he has great qualities, which are being identified and validated by the parents at every step. He realizes that there is no point choosing negativity, as there are no pay-offs to it, and is validated building his worth instead.

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Complete the following sentence with an appropriate word: “...we end up screaming and dole out punishment.” In the above sentence, the author criticizes theapproach of the parents.

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Explain in about 40 words, when and how do parents become reactive?

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In the line “what will bloom will depend on the seeds we nurture,” what seeds does the author refer to?

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The Correct Option is D

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Explain in about 40 words why NHA focuses on reforming parents to reform children.

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Share evidence from the text, in about 40 words, to support the view that parents appreciate the goodness of the child at every opportunity.

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In paragraph 5, in what way does “This approach” differ from the earlier approach?

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Select the option that can be classified as qualifying a praise as explained in the passage:

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The Correct Option is B

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The phrase “to cut the negative” in paragraph 4 most nearly means:

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The Correct Option is B

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The Correct Option is B

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